Wedding days end up being way more stressful than they need to be. Everyone wants to have their special part in the day, the bride and groom are feeling like they can't even stop long enough to enjoy what's going on, and there are vendors that are treating the wedding like a business. It can be a chaotic mess. However, I have a few tips for a bride on the wedding day that may help ease the stress.
Don't Allow Stress
Let me explain. I know this is far easier said than done, but it is needed! From my wedding day experience, it is NOT worth it to try to make sure everything goes perfectly. There are so many small things that may or may not go wrong. That is part of it! When you focus on all of the little details that don't matter, you end up missing the big special moments that you should be enjoying. I have seen it happen before. Something that simply does not matter that much goes wrong, and people start freaking out. This "freaking out" can happen to the bride more than anyone sometimes. Nothing is going to turn out completely perfect and spotless. However, the imperfections are the things that make your day special. The goal is to learn to enjoy those imperfect moments instead of ruining a big chunk of your day by worrying about something that pales in comparison to the fact that you are about to start the rest of your life with the person that you love. Keep that in the center. That's what it's all about.
Slow Down
Try not to rush the day. This is very hard to accomplish because of vendors that are there for a limited time, but you need to enjoy every moment as much as possible. It is worth it to slow down and actually experience what all is going on instead of just flying through the day and not experiencing any of it. If the vendors are good at their jobs, the important things will be captured/serviced without you having to worry about it. So, unless there is a legitimate problem, don't worry about what the vendors are doing. Tell yourself to slow down and enjoy YOUR day. If it's possible, surround yourself with people that will help you enjoy the day. As a rule, wedding days are SOOO rushed. The day ends up being a blur in the minds of the bride and groom. I don't understand why that has become a thing. The only reason anyone is there is for the bride and groom. So, it will definitely pay off in the end if you simply let go of all the things that "need" to get done and you just enjoy the day. Don't complicate it by trying to rush yourself. It's better to actually remember the best day of your life than to try to make sure every single thing is accomplished on the mile long wedding day check list. Sloooowww Dooowwwn!
Keep Your Eye On The Prize
This is basically just to say, don't forget why you are there. You and your soon to be husband are the reasons for the day. NOTHING ELSE SHOULD GO ABOVE THAT. Not family, not friends, not vendors, not details, not perfection, not problems. Nothing. You need to make it up in your mind before that wedding day even starts that you are going to enjoy your day with your husband and nothing is going to stand in the way of that. Go right ahead and experience all of the special moments that go along with the day. We won't judge. Lol That's why you are there. Honestly, that's why everyone is there. There are so many people that try to make your day about them, and that's not ok. But, even with those people present, you have to make the conscious decision to focus on the reason for the day; your marriage! Don't let anyone or anything ruin it for you. Also, don't let yourself ruin it for you.